Dealing with a Picky Toddler


This post is for the moms who have an older baby or toddler (18-36 months) who used to eat any and everything and have just stopped doing that. It’s accepted that babies who are weaned the baby led way tend to be less picky later in life. The biggest reason for that is that when you start with purées, your baby gets used to soft mushy foods and may not be interested in table foods because of texture. Another reason is that when you do BLW, you introduce a lot of foods and flavors and spices and textures. With TW (traditional weaning) you tend to stick to plain fruits and vegetables and meats. Less flavor, fewer spices. 

Again those are just “typical”. There are always exceptions, of course.

Maybe you did BLW from day 1 and your baby tried all sorts of things for a long time. But now he doesn’t eat anything new and just likes the same 3-4 foods.

Or maybe you did TW from day 1 and introduced table foods much later, and your baby would try a variety of foods.

It doesn’t matter much how you got to this point. Your baby is a little older now and doesn’t try new foods. She only likes blueberries and pasta and cheese and Goldfish crackers. 

I’ve been running this page and social media accounts for over 1.5 years now. In that time, I have received hundreds, maybe thousands, of comments, concerns, and questions regarding a picky eater. And almost all of the time, the child is between 18 and 36 months. Before 18 months, it’s typically a short phase that lasts a week. But somewhere between 18-24 months, kiddos find out that they have a voice and an opinion. Vocabulary starts to increase tremendously, and most little ones learn they can say NO! They can specifically ask for a food they want. 

When that happened here, I can’t tell you how happy I was. Alexander was finally able to tell me what he wanted! It made snack time easier. If he didn’t like what I had made (which wasn’t every day), I could ask what he wanted instead. After a few weeks, I started realizing that what he wanted was almost always the same thing: applesauce. Sometimes it was blueberries, sometimes a glass of milk or water. But I’d say 90% of the time, he wanted applesauce.

Is applesauce a bad thing? Well, no. It’s just apples that have been steamed/boiled/cooked in some way, then mashed or puréed. But it can’t be the only food that someone eats!

Here are a few other things that Alexander eats consistently (at 32 months…. 2 years, 8 months):

  • bread or toast
  • cereal and milk
  • peanut butter
  • blueberries or blackberries or strawberries
  • bananas
  • oatmeal
  • pancakes and muffins
  • juice (though he hardly ever gets it; I’m not sure why he asks for it!)
  • mashed potatoes
  • mashed sweet potatoes
  • fried potatoes (skillet hash browns, sort of)
  • quiche
  • shredded cheese
  • baked apples
  • grassfed butter
  • meatballs
  • Chipotle!
  • avocado
  • smoothies

This is the same child that used to eat eggs any style, any meat, nearly any vegetable, nearly any fruit, and pretty much every thing I made. He might not eat it all, but he would certainly try it.

Now it’s like pulling teeth to get him to try anything. Yesterday, he pretty much ate bread and fruit all day. He also had one bite of avocado and a few bites of baked sweet potato. But it was a banana, applesauce, blueberries, oatmeal, cereal, and a little milk.

[I was pregnant and tired, so I let him have what he wanted. We were at the hospital having a baby, so I told the babysitters (a friend and then my mother) to let him have whatever he wanted. Then he was having a tough time transitioning to a new baby, so I let him have applesauce until he was blue in the face. We are working on undoing those new obsessions.]

I’m NOT an expert, and we are not out of the woods yet. But I want to share a few ideas that have worked, things that you can try too. [If your child has never been picky and still lots to eat all sorts of vegetables, count yourself lucky! From my experience, it’s more likely than not that a toddler, somewhere between 18 and 36 months, will be picky for a while.]

  1. The obvious solution is to just say NO. Don’t offer the fruits and breads and treats (whatever that looks like in your house). Offer only meats and vegetables and a little fresh fruit. And if he doesn’t eat, SO BE IT. Be firm. He won’t starve himself forever. You can force your little one to go cold turkey. That isn’t MY style, though.
  2. A somewhat obvious solution: Offer a few good foods and don’t put out the treat (from now on, I’ll just say “treat” when I really mean whatever your kiddo is obsessed with… for me, that’s applesauce!) until at least 10 minutes into the meal. Your child is more likely to eat good stuff if she’s hungry and that’s the only option.
  3. Hide good foods. In my case, Alexander likes a few things that I can easily sneak veggies into: meatballs, pancakes, smoothies. I can easily add some spinach or broccoli to all 3 of them. Unfortunately, he doesn’t know that the veggie is in there, so he isn’t developing a taste for it. And he can’t drink green smoothies as his sole source of vegetables forever. In a pinch, when you’re worried about calories and nutrients, those are fine substitutes for pure, prepared vegetables.
  4. Offer the good stuff in a new ways. If that means letting him listen to music and walk around while he eats, try it. If that means eating off your plate for a week or two, try it. If it means eating outside, or in a different room, or whatever, try it. 

Be enthusiastic. Be a good example of what good eating looks like. If you’re drinking a soda and eating fries for lunch, you can’t expect your kiddo to eat a baked sweet potato. Get active. If you and your toddler are running around, jumping, tickling, playing, you’ll wear him out! And as we all know, worn out = hungry and thirsty. After a workout, you feel like you could eat a horse. Get active with your child then offer up a hearty omelet or loaded baked potato. He’ll be more likely to dig in after a good “workout”.

Next to last note: Create a log of what your toddler is eating on a WEEKLY basis and not by-meal or by-day. You may be surprised that it’s pretty varied.

Finally, try not to lose your cool. Try not to get frustrated. You did nothing wrong! Your child isn’t being difficult. It’s a very common stage! And it will pass, like any other stage. It may take a while, but it will pass. 

Do you have any tips for feeding a picky toddler?


[DISCLAIMER: I do not agree with making a separate meal for a picky child. I think you can offer what you are having plus one additional thing that doesn’t require cooking or planning, like blueberries. If you want your child to eat a sweet potato for lunch, I suggest making two of them so you can eat one as well. Two meals is extra work and will only perpetuate the pickiness!]

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Baby Led Weaning at 10 Months Old

Today’s guest post is from Rachel Redmon (hermoon.herstars on Instagram) who has a sweet 10-month-old little girl.

A Day in the Life: Baby-Led Weaning with a 10-11 Month Old

Hey y’all – I’m Rachel and I’ll be your guest poster today! Big thanks to Bethany for having me here while she snuggles her sweet newborn. I honestly can’t remember when I first heard about BLW; I do know that it very quickly became the right fit for our family. Healthy eating habits and trusting Rosalyn’s own preferences & instincts are really important to me so BLW made perfect sense for us. It’s been so much fun the past several months watching her explore tastes and textures. It’s also served as a great reminder to clean up our own food choices to provide a good example for her. In general, she’s a good eater with a few under-the-weather/teething/not-super-interested weeks thrown in. Here’s a typical Saturday in our house!



Breakfast is our favorite meal and also the easiest to prepare (coincidence?). This morning we had fried eggs, cinnamon raisin toast with almond butter, and freeze dried strawberries. Eggs are usually a hit, but she definitely prefers fried over scrambled. Over medium gives a creamy yolk that’s still easily grabbed by small hands. This girl would eat toast all day if we let her, so I try and add a little something-something with the raisin & almond butter combo. She’s recently begun tossing anything that is deemed too large, so we’ve moved on from the finger-sized portions to small squares. The freeze dried strawberries were a first and became an instant favorite; they’re like baby candy!

Notes: Eggs, almond butter, and strawberries are all potential allergens. So I wouldn’t serve all three together until you know your little one doesn’t have a reaction with any of them.


BLW at 10 months

Lunch was leftovers with Buffalo Wing Chili (see recipe below). Yes, babies can eat spicy food! Follow your gut and don’t serve anything you’re not sure about; generally, we let Rosalyn try mildly spicy things that we eat and she’s liked them all so far! This recipe actually ends up being more tangy than spicy with the heavy cream involved, but there is a little bit of heat that she doesn’t mind at all. The real concern with this dish is the sodium. It’s definitely saltier than most things we offer so we just take care to keep her other meals and snacks low sodium. Avocado would’ve been a great “cool down” side to offer. We didn’t have any at the time so I went with a few crackers and some broccoli that had been made for dinner. She doesn’t self-feed with spoons yet so with chilis we drain a bit of the liquid and let her grab the chunky stuff with her hands – its messy and she loves it.

Notes: There’s dairy in the chili, but that’s the only thing to watch out for here. When it comes to spicy, I wouldn’t go serving up ghost peppers any time soon but don’t be afraid of a little heat! When eating spicy things, we are careful to watch her hands as she rubs her eyes when frustrated or tired.

Buffalo Wing Chili

1 lb. chicken, cooked and shredded

½ red onion, diced

½ bottle buffalo sauce of choice (more or less, depending on preferences)

2 packets dry Ranch seasoning

2 cups chicken broth

2 cups salsa

1 can great northern beans, drained and rinsed

1 can red kidney beans, drained and rinsed

2 cups heavy cream

Sauté onion in butter. Add shredded chicken, ranch seasoning, and buffalo sauce. Add beans and salsa, simmer on low. Stir in heavy cream before serving.


BLW at 10 months

Dinner was a simple plate with some tried-and-true favorites: stir-fry veggies and beans. When serving stir-fry, we’ll either give her a little sauce or none at all. Because of the sodium in the chili earlier, we stuck with naked veggies sautéed in butter. Don’t tell anyone – the biscuits we had were pre-made because nobody’s perfect, and they were delicious haha. We had broccoli and mini sweet peppers this time, but usually include some zucchini, yellow squash, or mushrooms as well. Sautéed zucchini and squash were some of her first foods and stir-fry is still one of her favorite things to eat. Black beans are on the smaller side and we’re still learning how to grasp them; red kidney beans would be easier for hands working on pincer grasp!

Notes: Even when keeping low-sodium,real, whole butter is a great fat for babies!


Rosalyn probably had about ½ to ¾ of each plate served. The amount she eats widely varies depending on how she’s feeling, what we’re eating, and if there are any hungry dogs milling about. Sometimes she’ll just play the whole meal and others we end up giving her bits off our plates because she’s so hungry. It’s all up to her.

BLW at 10 months

I hope y’all enjoyed the small peek into our world. It’s not always so nicely plated and photo-worthy. We just do the best with what we have at the time and try to have fun along the way. You guys can find me at and @hermoon.herstars on Instagram – stop by and say hey!

BLW at 10 months

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The Virgin Gut: Should I Start Solids Early?

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Today’s guest post is from Megan Garcia (!

Should I Start Solids Early?

When Bethany and I “met” over email and talked about a guest post, she said she wanted to hear more about the virgin gut. It’s something that she tells folks to research when they ask whether or not it’s okay to start solids early.

“Early,” according to the World Health Organization, can mean before 6 months of exclusive breastfeeding.

Breast Milk – And Only Breast Milk – Protects Early Gut Health

Honestly, I had never heard the term “virgin gut” so I looked it up: A virgin gut is one that has only been exposed to breast milk.

This is something that made sense to me. Just last year, researchers at the University of North Carolina [ link: ] found that formula – even when given alongside breast milk – is enough to forever change your baby’s gut. And the microbes that live there. As it turns out, exclusive breastfeeding prepares your baby’s gut for the introduction of solids. And when you add formula to your baby’s diet? Well, there’s a greater chance of stomachaches and colic.

Like formula, offering your baby any kind of food will change your baby’s gut. Offer solids too early, and you run the risk of interfering with the development of you baby’s immune system.

The main reason is this: Your baby’s microbes “educate” the newborn immune system. And sort of like how you can’t learn to read without first learning your alphabet – the first education of your baby’s immune system relies on specific microbes to help seal the gut and create a strong gut barrier. And these specific microbes thrive on the sugars found in breast milk.

When microbes living in your baby’s gut fall out of balance, this is called dysbiosis. Early dysbiosis is linked to immune disorders later in life. Specifically:



Atopic dermatitis, or eczema


In reality, it’s not just formula or early solids that are linked to baby dysbiosis. Anything that disrupts the balance of microbes within the first few months can cause some trouble. According to Maria Dominguez-Bello at the New York University School of Medicine, this means:

Formula, or “artificial lactation”

C-section delivery

Antibiotic use

The early introduction of solids

If You Follow Baby-Led Weaning, You Don’t Need To Worry

One question I get a lot is this: Do I need to start at exactly 6 months? You see, the World Health Organization recommends beginning solids after 6 months (or 180 days) of exclusive breastfeeding. But it wasn’t always this way. Before 2002, the recommended age was 4 months.

At 4 months, purees and baby cereals are age-appropriate if your baby cannot feed himself. But with the new recommendation, some researchers say that pureed food might be just as outdated as the recommendation to begin solids at 4 months. Yes, baby-led weaning is catching on with medical professionals too!

The bottom line is that the recommendation to wait until 6 months is a guideline. At around 6 months, your baby’s gut and immune system will be ready for solids. This happens along with other signs of readiness, which you can gauge by asking yourself:

Is my baby able to sit without help?

Is there an interest in food?

Can my baby grab with his finger and thumb, instead of his whole palm?

If you follow baby-led weaning – your baby will let you know when it’s time to begin solids. If he reaches for food at 5 ½ months, follow his cues and begin to introduce solids (I have an opinion on which solids matter most – namely, foods with iron). Most babies will reach for food between the ages of 4 – 7 months and will get used to feeding themselves at around 8 months. But every baby is different.

To wrap things up:

Anything besides breast milk will impact the microbes living in your baby’s gut + newborn immune system

Both formula and early introduction of solids can lead to baby dysbiosis

Lifelong immune disorders like food allergies and eczema are linked to baby dysbiosis

At around 6 months, your baby’s gut and immune system are ready for solids – this is only a guideline! Watch for the baby-led weaning signs of readiness.

If you can, use the principle of the virgin gut and allow your baby’s immune system to fully ripen before changing around the little tribes of microbes that live there. This one step will support your child’s health into adulthood.

To find out more about first foods, head on over to Megan Garcia’s website [ link: ] or stop by her Instagram feed [ link: ], where she shares tips on baby health + nutrition.


Azad, M. B., et al. “Infant gut microbiota and food sensitization: associations in the first year of life.” Clinical & Experimental Allergy 45.3 (2015): 632-643.

Daniels, Lisa, et al. “Baby-Led Introduction to SolidS (BLISS) study: a randomised controlled trial of a baby-led approach to complementary feeding.” BMC pediatrics 15.1 (2015): 179.

Dominguez-Bello, Maria, and Filipa Godoy-Vitorino. “Infant Microbiome.” Encyclopedia of Metagenomics: Environmental Metagenomics (2015): 280-285.

Wright, Charlotte M., et al. “Is babyled weaning feasible? When do babies first reach out for and eat finger foods?.” Maternal & child nutrition 7.1 (2011): 27-33.

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Dinner Winner Plate Review

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Today’s guest post is from Brittney Mason, who blogs at Mom Misadventures!

I am a first time mom of a stubborn and bright 2 year old son. I have chronicled the struggles of motherhood since my son was only a few weeks old, after finding out he had GERD, colic, and a dairy protein allergy. I started blogging as my release from the every day struggles of life with a new baby, when the 6 hours of screaming a day just got to be too much. Two years later, my blog also includes crafts, product reviews, and all the ins and outs of being a mom from someone who confesses that every day is crazy-beautiful, and I continue to have NO idea what I’m doing on this rollercoaster of mommy hood!

“Yesterday was the first time we’d used the Dinner Winner plate, and it really was a hit! I explained the “directions”, that he couldn’t go on to the next “square” (something he could understand, even though that isn’t entirely accurate ;)) until the square before was eaten or he at least tried one bite. I placed one of his favorite foods, yogurt with fresh blueberries, under the FINISH….”

Read the rest of her review on her blog!

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Birth Story: Annabelle

A Birth Story-

(birth photography by Meaghan:

It was a few days leading up to my due date. I was overdue with Alexander, by 6 days, so I was assuming I would be overdue with this baby. 

Friday morning (January 29th), I decided to accept reality, that I would be pregnant another week, maybe more. I took Alexander to the Mall of Georgia to walk around a while. (I was noticeably more irritable, though I didn’t realize it until later.) Tired and achy, we headed home. For some reason, I also decided to take a nap with Alexander, which I never do anymore! I shared a snap on Snapchat that said, “Maybe his last nap as an only child!”

Around 5:00pm I started feeling a little crampy, and I noticed the Braxton Hicks contractions were happening more than usual. By 5:30pm, they were painful, and I realized they weren’t disappearing if I walked around or changed positions. I knew that was one sign of true labor versus false labor, but I wasn’t about to get my hopes up. 

It was 6:15pm. I started timing contractions, just to see if they were consistent and how far apart they were. Cameron came home at 6:45pm, and I told him I thought things might be happening. At that point, the contractions were 7-8 minutes apart and lasting 60-90 seconds. Cameron had brought home some dinner; I forced myself to eat a few bites. At that point, I was pretty confident I was in true labor. I called my midwifery, and I texted my doula, photographer, babysitter, and mother.

The contractions were getting stronger, so I took a shower to see if they would subside. They didn’t! The contractions were now about 3 minutes apart and lasting 45 seconds.

Contraction Timer

Around 9:00pm the babysitter (our friend Carrie) came over, so Cameron and I told Alexander goodnight and started toward the hospital. Along the way, I had several contractions. Car contractions were tough! I knew they’d be harder than at-home contractions, but I made it through them. We got to the hospital around 10:00pm. I should have pre-registered (oops), so we had to do some paperwork right away.

Now…. the exciting part. It was 10:30pm when I finally got into a triage room; they checked my blood pressure and all that. I had to lie on the table while they did everything, and the contractions had gotten closer together (every 2 minutes). In the middle of one contraction, while the midwife was about to check my dilation, my water broke! That was intense. And the midwife told me I was 4 centimeters dilated. She requested that I walk for an hour before getting settled into the labor and delivery room.


We walked for a little while, but honestly, the contractions were getting to be really tough for me to handle. Every 90 seconds or so, I grabbed onto one of the handrails in the hallway and breathed/moaned through it. I decided a shower might do me some good. (With Alexander, I really enjoyed standing in a hot shower while the water beat down on my lower back.)

I did that for quite a while, and at about 11:30, I told the doula and nurse that I wanted the bath filled with water. (I was told it would take about 20 minutes for the tub to fill.) Around midnight, the contractions were so intense that I vomited. I remembered that happening last time, near the end. While physically upsetting, I knew that it was also an encouragement.

Only two positions were manageable for me. One was leaning over the bed and swaying my hips back and forth. The other was standing next to the bed and just embracing the pain. This time around, I didn’t like anyone touching me through most of the contractions, so I just stood and breathed through them mostly on my own. 

It was about 12:30am (Saturday now, January 30th), and I felt the urge to push while I was standing there. I told my doula, and she quickly told the nurse that I should probably be checked for dilation. Of course, my fear was that I would push the baby out while standing there, and he/she would fall to the floor!

The midwife came in and had me get onto the table to check my progress. She let me know I was “one good breath away from being fully dilated.” Woohoo! She also told me to go ahead and push whenever I felt the need. Cameron and the doula stood on my left side while the midwife stood on my right side. (The bathtub was only filled to 6 inches, so I wasn’t able to get into it! So much for a water birth!)


Each push was intense and burned, just as I remembered. When I started feeling the baby’s head coming forward, I tensed up and got very emotional. I only wanted someone to reach in there and pull it out for me. I didn’t want to keep going anymore. It hurt too bad. After I pushed as much as I thought I could, the midwife would say, “Give me just a little more.” So I would push just a little more.

I felt the head, finally. I could feel it almost out. But I was out of energy, out of breath. Then I pictured the baby, I told myself I was about to find out if I had a little boy or little girl. I was almost done. I was going to meet my baby. The midwife gave me that command again, so I pushed and screamed and shouted until I felt the baby come. 


Relief! Instant relief. We pulled the baby up, and someone said, “It’s a girl!” It may have been me. It was all a bit fuzzy. Immediately they unwrapped the cord (it was around her neck twice and twisted around her body) and cleaned out her mouth. They wiped her down with a towel very quickly then placed her directly on my chest.

It was just before 1:00am.

Within a few minutes, she did a breast crawl and started to breastfeed. I learned I had no bruising or tearing (woohoo!) so I wouldn’t need stitches. After the cord stopped pulsing, Cameron cut it, and some time later, I delivered the placenta. For two hours, our little girl laid on my chest. The nurse weighed her at that point (about 7.5 pounds), and we all just relaxed while they prepared a private room for us (recovery room?).


Compared to Alexander’s birth, this was so much faster! I couldn’t believe it! We were really fortunate.

And now, it’s been a few days, and we’ve got a precious baby girl and a sweet boy at home. We are settling in, slowly but surely. It’s going to take a while for me to adjust to having two children! I think that once Alexander connects with her, things will be smoother. For now, we are just enjoying both of them and enjoying our time as a family of four.

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